It’s time to talk about black male incels.

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Activation warning: This publication contains references to the violence of the intimate couple, gender violence, armed violence, mass shootings and terrible human beings of general purpose on the Internet. I am sorry to expose yourself in advance.

Memory Elliot Rodger. I remember him with love.

In 2014, Rodger, a 22 -year -old who was billed a “capture” and a “good guy” and a “supreme gentleman”, who also bothered him that he was still “a virgin,” stabbed three men even Death a total of 134 times before entering a spree, leading to a brotherhood house and killing three additional people and hurting another 13, before suicide.

Rodger wrote a manifest long of 138 pages explaining his “justification” for his crimes, leaving behind a YouTube video where he said:

During the last eight years of my life, since I arrived at puberty, I have been forced to endure an existence of loneliness, rejection and unfulfilled wishes. The girls gave their affection, sex and love to other men, but never to me. I am 22 years old and I’m still a virgin. I have never kissed a girl. I have passed through the university for two and a half years, more than that really, and I am still a virgin. It has been very tortuous. […] All because girls have never attracted me. In those years I have had to rot alone. I don’t know why you, girls don’t attract me, but I will punish you all for it. “

Rodger is not the first or the only man who believes that the cause of his loneliness was that women were too “trapped” to see the “value” in it. He and many like him are “INCELS. “Saint Elliot, as his most ardent fans refer to him, He has inspired imitators who have also taken lives.

Abbreviation of “involuntary celibate” a INCEL It began as simply being people, non -exclusive gender, who wanted romantic relationships but could not obtain them. Unfortunately, today it is very different: Now, we use the term to define a man who resents openly and externally to the most desirable female members of society.and the negatives of those women to sleep with them.

Walk through your children’s social media parks and see phrases like “Society has become a place to worship women and is so fucking wrong that they are not gods, they are just a CM-CY cm container,” either “All our lives have had to endure the pain of being so physically repulsive for women that they would never consider giving us a chance. We are actually so genetically inferior that they hate us. They need to suffer […] His hypocrisy is a crime [punishable by] torture for the rest of their bitch lives,“Or even the too common that develops in the corners every day:”bitch. “

For yearsSelf -identified Incels and members of the “men who go to their own way movement” (mgtow for abbreviation) attacked my comments section, rebuking me and the women who commented here (before closing the comments section), calling us all kinds of insults and insults.

But it is more than wanting to remind us that “we are nothing, we have nothing and we do not bring anything to the table.” Is also “… So how dare you think you can refuse? anything Desire?”

As Jia Tolentino said, “Incels tend to direct the hatred of the things they think they want; They are obsessed with female beauty but despise makeup as a form of fraud. Ince culture advises men to “lookmaxx” or “statusmaxx”: improve their appearance, earn more money, so that women are not potential partners or objects worthy of possible affection, but that they are not sensitive bodies that must be claimed Through cold strategy. […] When these tactics fail, as they are obliged to do so, anger intensifies. “

What does it mean to be a woman who is surrounded by men who say and do this kind of thing? What kind of meaning of me do you build when it is very close to men with this type of hidden thoughts and feelings? Who do you become when they are raised around this, around a man who denies a woman to the point of manipulating her so that she creates that she could never be or do better? Could you even recognize it for how harmful it is?

Weight loss has always been associated with beauty, whether you agree with that or not, and we have recognized it here before beauty is unfortunately associated with social stature for women. Losing the weight successfully, feeling good with oneself is what makes a woman “catch”, newly prepared to reject men who could have given a chance before. The more “attractive” it is, the easier it will be for you to access promotions, positions and, frank, and less likely need A man. If more women are discovering as be more “traditionally attractive”, that’s more women than have To support the types of men who could hide this type of thoughts and feelings behind a “good guy” approach. Now they have better options, including the best option to simply be happy and single.

I think of the woman who, after rejecting the progress of a man, was He attacked his head with a skateboard. Or the woman who, after rejecting the progress of a man, was followed in a parking lot and assaulted sexually, then killed. I think of men who, like Rodger, persecute women often; Men who, like Rodger, could never convince a woman to really take them seriously; The men who, like Rodger, believed that the only real answer to this is violence. That is something we see in our community too often, and we all know the prices paid for their right. This is right in line with uncertain behavior.

Last week, it was reported that Megan Thee Stallion, a rapper well known for his dance and …Ahem: Titanium Knees, he was shot by another rapper after a disagreement between the two. The man supposedly shot him in his feet. He shot a dancer. On the feet.

“On Sunday morning, I suffered gunshot wounds, as a result of a crime that was committed against me and made with the intention of physically damaging me” She wrote In an IG post. Page six had a little more information:

“Tory shot from inside the vehicle while Megan was outside trying to leave,” he told us a source exclusively on Thursday. “There is video and the police are investigating. This is a case of a man damaging physically and abusing a woman. ” [source]

Now, this is not about Megan. This is not even the loser that possibly shot him. This is these Losers:

Being a “hot girl” who has a “hot girl” always understood that it was to feel himself, feel good about himself, a feeling of self -determination focused on body image. In these screenshots, we are seeing black men assuming that Megan was shot because he was being “a hot girl”, necessary to put her in place. That’s where we are.

Regardless of whatever In fact It happened, the internal uncertainty only leap of these men.

The archetypal ince is white and masculine, With a predictable curve towards white supremacy. However, I have a theory, maybe this image, this description, is incomplete. What once was simply a group of people who tried to accept their late flowering status has become more than angry virgins, but men who resent self -determination and women’s agency, and believe they should be eliminated Therefore.

And those men are not always white.

I think our understanding of an “ince” is too narrow. Perhaps, it is not simply white men who are “angry virgins.” Perhaps we must consider that “ince” is, when observed through a lens that is not simply fixed in white men, a term that includes much of the behavior we see in our community every day. Perhaps “ince” is now the phrase of catching to any Men who want Destroy it.“

We may need to take it seriously in our community. Call them. See it for what it is. And keep your distance.