Dancing all night or drinking tea in sweatpants? Here are some ideas on how to have a healthier mindset.
Sitting is the opposite of standing
If you spend any time on Instagram, you may have heard Brian Jordan Alvarez song “Session” (<– that's a link to Apple Music to listen!).
“Sitting” is a catchy tune with a very simple message sung by Brian’s character, TJ Mack (pictured below). The song went viral after several different music artists began covering the song. My favorite cover is musical theater audition! I think the message of “you deserve to sit down” is a secondary reason why the song is so popular! Everyone needs more relaxation in their lives.
Brian/TJ have been interviewed in all the media. You might also like TJ’s songs “Inside,” “Chicas In My DMs,” and “Pickle In The Fridge.” Maybe there’ll be a tour soon now that he’s a pop star. Read more about the characters Brian Jordan Alvarez has created in this article!
Needless to say, everyone in my family spent the entire month of October with “Sitting” in our heads.
Sometimes I start singing about other opposites, which leads me to think once about what the opposite of is. Partying is.
(Stay with me: this post is right!)
It’s the party season
My definition of “partying” for this post is mostly tied to drinking alcohol, maybe also eating too much food that doesn’t leave your body feeling good. Or, otherwise, throw out the window any intention you had to respect your body in exchange for living in the moment. Maybe partying is the opposite of intuitive eating.
More often than not, partying leaves me hungover and/or sick. And I’m too old to feel bad about something that was within my control.
Fortunately, when I turned 40, something clicked in me and I began to realize that feeling better was never worth changing anything. The only thing that really matters to me is how I feel. This led me on my quest towards a more sober and curious life with the best non-alcoholic drinks I have discovered.
But that doesn’t mean I’m still not tempted to open a can of wine during the week or get carried away with the fun of a party.
Cozy is the opposite of partying
When I think about the opposite of party…it’s cozy.
Yeah Partying It’s a girls’ trip to an island with bottomless margaritas, staying up until midnight dancing at a club, then cozy It’s a wellness trip to a spa where you spend your days walking, doing yoga, and drinking smoothies and coconut water.
BOTH options sound fun, but one of them would make me feel terrible and the other would make me feel amazing.
The main reason I want to have alcohol at home is to celebrate something. It’s a teaching work day! I have a new client! It’s Friday! And when I feel this prolonged conditioning starting to create a craving, I imagine myself doing the opposite: settling in, lighting a candle, playing spa music, reading a good book, or watching a show with Thomas on the couch. Go to bed early.
These vibrations quench party cravings.
And let’s be honest: sleep is the ultimate cozy luxury. When I have a healthy day with some exercise, I focus on real food and no alcohol, I sleep through the night without waking up. A dream night! (Pun intended).
I share this in case you have similar cultural conditioning to me and are also looking to put your health first. Get comfortable, enjoy self-care, and focus on activities that make you feel good.
This time of year, it’s nice to embrace the cozy anyway!
